Comments on: Things NOT To Say To A Military Wife

By: ArmyWife

ArmyWife — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 04:05:19 +0000

My husband got asked the same dumb thing by his real mom. “So are you taking Trish and the kids with you?” Yeah I think I will just put them in the back of the LMTV and hope we don’t hit and IED. NO dumb **** we don’t get to go to war with them. Grrrrr.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 05:18:57 +0000

I would like to add to #6 that, many people in the service stay in past the time they “can” get out for the simple fact that they don’t have much of a choice. It’s for the same reason many people in the civilian world stay for years in jobs with undesirable conditions, because they can’t afford to just toss what time they have invested out the window and give up the paycheck, benefits, and pension that goes with it on the hope that something equal or better will just be waiting for them. You’ve probably known at least one civilian person who’s spent years slaving away at a thankless job they don’t exactly love. Would you ever ask that person, “How much longer until you can quit?” Well, genius, until they have a guaranteed back up job that will give them similar pay and benefits, such opportunities don’t grow on trees, ya know! I’ll never understand why some people seem to think serving in the military is just some hobby people do for years just because they get a kick out of it. It’s their LIVING, and one they and their families depend on heavily.

By: priscilla

priscilla — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:02:00 +0000

Its great to know that there many wives n husbands that feel the same way when ppl make comments like those . I am married to a army soldier whom at this moment is deployed to afghanistan . This is the first deployement since i married my husband this would be his second . I AM VERY SCARED N WORRY EVERY SECOND . And ppl who ask me questions like if what if he gets killed or what if he gets hurt n loses a arm or a leg ,….. i honestly dnt know what to answer back to them so i just walk away . The thought of somthing like that scares me n i often cry when im alone or cant sleep . but i know i would never give up on my husband no matter what happens in our lives hes my soul mate n i love him very much … to all the husbands n wives god bless us all n give us strength to face any challenges our lives bring us we can make it

By: Linda

Linda — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 20:40:17 +0000

It is really refreshing to see all of these comments since nobody knows how anybody truly feels. We can’t read
minds yet. However, with that being said, My son-in-law is deployed and I have the joy of trying to comfort my daughter who has worn a hole in my kitchen floor, gone through two cell battery’s and buckets of tears. She is holding it together and works full time and we all are very proud of her husband. I can’t imagine what my husband did when I was away. My youngest is currently in the United States Army and I could not be more pleased with her very adult choice since she is so young. I have destroyed the rest of the kitchen floor, been through two cell phone battery’s and burned up facebook talking and encouraging military moms and spouses. The hardest job in the military is being a spouse and God Bless all of you for your continued support. Be kind to those who don’t really fully understand your responsibilites. We have enough on our plates with worry, be it our spouse or children. God Bless and Keep all of you.

By: Alicia Holloway

Alicia Holloway — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 19:51:37 +0000

Marine wife and I couldn’t have said it better myself. I LOVE this list!

By: Lissette

Lissette — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 13:05:43 +0000

For the person who said it it really that bad let me tell you Don’t ask a stupid question if you see it in the news and read it in the paper and you hear it from wives or men who have spouses deployed or overseas that are making a sacrifice for your freedom and mine why don’t you try filling out our shoes and see how it feels maybe then you will not ask that question again. To all the men and women on here that are with me and we put up with so much from so many people WE ARE TOUGH AND WE HANG IN THERE TOGETHER ALWAYS AND FOREVER FOR OUR MEN AND WOMEN IN THE SERVICE WE ARE A TIGHT GROUP THAT NO ONE REALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT WE GO THROUGH THANKS FOR BEING A PART OF MY TEAM, my husband has been in so many war zones and i have come close to a divorce but then i look back what kind of a wife would i be if i didn’t back my husband up cause we are all they have when at war or any war zone for that matter and i was selfish because at the beginning i didn’t understand but i do now and stuck and stood by my husband even when i go to bed at night wondering if i would get a knock on my door praying for his life and safety i/m standing behind my husband all the way with all other spouses going through the same we are one unique team that no one can say (I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN WHEN THEY DON’T) so for any one else here who don’t know and wants to say any thing negative or stupid please keep your thoughts to your selves if you don’t have any thing positive to say about our husband and wives fighting for your freedom and for what we go through as well.

By: Andrew

Andrew — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 12:58:24 +0000

ok this kinda bothered me to a point. these comments are all to try and help (except for 2 i think). i guess you could say i know military but prolly not. i have military in my family but 2 are way past their deploying time and the other is a brother-in-law that just got back from deployment who i haven’t seen in a while. but back to what i was saying. i don’t understand why all of you who comment all enraged even have friends. i mean no not everyone understands you predicament but they do there best to comfort you i mean take it from this example if one of your friends got raped or molested in their past you would say some of those “ridiculous comments” to them because your trying to be sympathetic to something you yourself don’t understand. what if some of those people that had that happen to them and they said some of the terrible things you are saying to you this to you. would you talk to them? would you want to listen to them?So before you go around calling people ignorant and idiots think because we all are people and just because you can overcome struggles doesn’t mean you better then anyone else. and for the record im an 18 year old guy so if i can see something that you cant then maybe its not the “General Population” that has something wrong with them maybe its you. seriously please think before you write something. if people did more of that i think life would be much smoother.

By: susan

susan — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 11:39:31 +0000

I’ve been on both sides of the fence, a dependant spouse and the service member. When I was a single mom with a 2 and 4 year old, I was deployed for Desert Storm. My mom and dad cared for my babies while I was gone. One of my mom’s best friends was shopping one day, and went thru my best friends checkout. They began talking about my situation. My mom’ bestie decided that she wasn’t happy that I dumped my children on my mom while I went galivanting around the world. She just couldn’t understand why I didn’t just take my children with me. My girlfriend, who wanted to cram her fist in the other lady’s mouth, asked her where did she think, the children would stay while I was working? In the foxhole with me with bullets whizzing by?

By: Donna

Donna — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 10:35:49 +0000

I am a Military mother, my son has done 2 tours in Afghanastan and when hes over there I can”t watch the new or listen to Military songs or even talk about it, without crying, I am very proud of him and what all of our soldiers are scarificing for us, there isn’t anything people can say to make me feel any better or worse, he has a wife and a baby and I know that my daughter- in- law has a rough time when he’s gone, and I pray for his safety and the safety of all our soldiers and I pray for there families too.

By: Martha

Martha — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 08:47:38 +0000

Thank you all military spouses. Thanks to all the men and women serving too. I am so proud of my airman son. God Bless you All.