Comments on: Absence of Presence and Intimacy

By: Roman General

Roman General — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 15:39:53 +0000

Thanks Kat for the prayers, empathy and encouragement. The experience of all survivors, whether combat or other traumatization have similar responses and reactions.

By: Roman General

Roman General — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 15:35:14 +0000

PTSD is an array of defensive mechanisms that becomes entrenched in the combat veterans mind. The overwhelming emotions, triggers, and negative behavior can result in the veteran or soldier pushing everyone away. I still do this today, for me isolation is a coping mechanism to relieve the stress from being around people. When a combat veteran suffering from PTSD has amounted enough consequences from their actions and reactions then they may begin the journey of healing and recovery. I pray that your veteran finds this path soon.

By: T

Fri, 23 Oct 2009 16:04:48 +0000

I have witnessed this first hand. I was one of the “loved ones” who watched the “triggers” and “negative emotions” wither away at the man that I loved. I tried to understand. I tried to be there. His insistence through his behavior continually said, “Stay away. Far away.” and though I know he, in reality, didn’t want that, I couldn’t do it any longer. I felt like a failure as a friend but… I do continually send him prayers and wish him the best.

Thank you for sharing your perspective.

By: Kat in GA

Kat in GA — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 13:24:08 +0000

One some level, I can totally relate. Obviously not a combat veteran myself (I’m definitely not soldier material, I’m sorry to say), but I AM a survivor of long-term childhood abuse in all its myriad forms. While I feel like I turned out OK, it is VERY easy to distance myself from people (especially those close to me if I’m repeatedly hurt in some way) and be a loner. Very easy for me to shut that door. I totally get it.

hang in there – hugs and prayers coming from GA.